Make stress your friend and some tips for happiness

By April 19, 2016 June 24th, 2016 life coaching

We arrived in Ireland a few days ago on the wings of a gale wind. It has been a very busy month with trips to Poland, Germany, and Norway. A weird anxiety consumed me causing me to spend a lot of time alone hiking the Norwegian and Irish mountains. I’ve learned an important lesson. You can not escape from anxiety and pressure in your life; it will always follow you wherever you go even if you leave it for a moment, you will soon realize that you have to face it. We so often dream of changing our lives and living in different places but the sad realization is that geographical location won’t change much. Of-course you can get more sun in Spain, or silence in the Norwegian mountains, but what you bare inside of you will follow. The grass might be greener for a period of time. Sadly, however, as time passes by you will discover that the ‘stress’ doesn’t come only from the world outside. It comes from within.

I spent time away from people and all the noises they make; only to find that I had to come back and face the stress and anxiety deep within me.

In the last article, I promised that I would give a few tips from my students on the topic of happiness, but before I do that, I will continue with the subject of stress.

Is it so bad, and if so, how can we avoid it?

Maybe we don’t have to avoid it. Perhaps we could just look at it from a completely different point of view.

What if what scientists have told us in the past ten years about stress is actually wrong? The latest research on stress indicates that what you believe about stress changes its’ effect on you. If you believe that stress isn’t harmful but is actually good, it will literally strengthen your heart. If you learn how to live in a stressful situation with a positive outlook, your brain will produce a hormone very similar to braveness.

Maybe instead of constantly running from stressful situations we can learn how to deal with them. We can begin to believe that those situations aren’t harmful and gain from them.

Find work that has a meaning and greater purpose instead of staying in your comfort zone. Stress can be your enemy if you think it is, but it can become your friend if you have the right attitude.  Stress can actually make you stronger and braver.