You are who you believe you are

By June 24, 2016 life coaching

I know its sounds pretty trivial.  One of the slogans which you can find in various motivational books or Adidas and Nike advertisement:  ‘You are who you believe you are.’  Is faith really so important?  Jon Krakauer wrote; “It’s not always necessary to be strong, but to feel strong.”  Is it not about being great as opposed believing that one can become great?  Is it not about achieving rather than believing that we are able to achieve?  Is there a moment where dreams link with faith to create reality?  It’s easy to agree or disagree with the role of faith in our life.  All I can do is to share my own experience.

As far as I can remember, I always wanted to be a writer.  I wanted to be a writer when I was six and I wrote my first one page science-fiction story on my father’s old typewriter.  I wanted to be a writer when I was in the high school, playing truant, spending my time outdoors in the woods or at the river bank, writing poems and dreaming of being like Rimbaud or Baudelaire.  I wanted to be a writer when I got married. I was an unemployed computer science teacher, who dreamt of writing one life changing novel! A novel which I never completed.  Throughout my twenties I slowly started to believe that fiction writing wasn’t for me. After all, so many people dream about being writers, singers, hip-hop stars, film actors and never become one. Writing seemed to be a silly dream that had clung to my life.

I finally let go of the dream and focus on ‘real life.’  I found a job in sales and helped my wife manage her business.  After a few years we left Poland and settled in Ireland… and in Ireland I discovered one thing; the dream was still present, glistening deep inside of me.  No matter how hard I tried to let go of it, it lived and breathed in my soul.

In order to achieve a dream, we need to have a dream.  We can not reach our dreams if we don’t have them. I think that some people choose not to have dreams because it’s safer and it saves many disappointments. Is having a dream enough? Did not most of us have dreams when we were children?  Dreams bigger than us? Why do only a few achieve them?

Somehow after more than 25 years of dreaming to be a writer, I didn’t become one.

It changed one sunny day.  It was late October and I went for a walk to the woods to pray and meditate on my life.  And there it happened.  A moment of realization struck me with such a clarity.  I heard a clear voice coming from within: “You’re going to write a book.”  In that instant I just believed and said out loud:  “I’m going to be a writer.”

It’s not easy to start and it’s even harder to finish.  Passion and hard work should be a fuel to achieve our dreams but I believe that faith is the most important element in the formula of succeeding.  If you don’t have a dream, you won’t achieve it. If you don’t believe that you can reach it, you will fail too.

So one last question.  When did I become a writer?  When the dream was born?  Was it when I finished my debut novel? Or maybe, I’m not a writer and will only become one after my book is published?  The answer is simple. I became an author on that sunny October day, the moment I believed in my heart that I could.


If you believe without a doubt that you can became someone or reach your dreams, I promise that you will. Just have faith because you are who you believe you are.